Friday, June 29, 2007

What this blog means to me

This blog means so much to me. From the first little nudge from the Divine—“Start blogging!” to the earnest questions that have come in lately from readers, it’s been one long journey of spiritual growth. It’s amazing to look back at the early entries and shake my head, realizing how much I’ve learned. This truly is a record of my own spiritual path, twisted and kinked but still discernibly going upward.

I need to thank so many people for their support and encouragement. First of all, my fellow bloggers: Kate, Kim, Chris, Emily, Maria, PTCakes. Our exchanges are the fuel that keeps me going. Next my mom, who’s always been the stalwart cheerleader for all my adventures. Third, my children, who have willingly been the grist for the blogging mill, only rolling their eyes on occasion when letting me tell their stories from my perspective.

And finally, thank you to YOU, my readers, without whom none of this would matter one bit. The joyous transaction of getting a neat idea and sharing it wouldn’t be complete without you. Thanks for tuning in and letting me into your day.

I hope you have a great week! See you on the 9th.


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Thursday, June 28, 2007

"Summertime, and the living is easy. . . "

It’s time to recharge the batteries!

I just realized I’ve been blogging every weekday including holidays since I started in April 2005, with only one or two days missed for my niece’s wedding last September.

I’m feeling now that a brief vacation is in order. Next week seems as good a time as any because in anticipation for the Fourth, I can feel everything slowing down. I think I’ll take advantage of the lull to regroup. So, tomorrow will be my last post until resuming again on July 9th.

Fair enough? I promise to come back refreshed and with both spiritual guns blazing. If you want to be notified when my blog resumes, subscribe to the daily notification email with the link in the right hand column.

Check in tomorrow, though, for one more message!


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Wednesday, June 27, 2007

Q: Supply = idea

Site reader Byron asked me about supply yesterday. This is such a non-stop issue, isn't it? And I don't mean just about money. It's about do we have what we need, and what happens if we don't? It's about choosing whether to believe in lack or in abundance. It's not the bank account or the paycheck. It's inspiration, gratitude and action.

This is definitely a work-in-progress for me, but I don't feel bad about it. A very wise spiritual healer I once knew said this is something we need to demonstrate every day, ongoing. It's not something we figure out once then forget about it. Even if we have all the money in the world, there will still be the need to overcome lack in other areas—maybe time, maybe health, maybe love. Most of us are focused on money as the measure of supply, but I'm becoming convinced this is way off. It's not dollars at all.

So what have I learned, as recently as last week? That all I need is ideas. All I need, have ever needed, will ever need is new inspiration from the Divine to direct my next step. That's it. One idea, even, to initiate one next step. For, I can only take one step at a time.

If I'm afraid, if I'm scrambling to make money, if I'm acting under the impression that I need to figure out what to do, I block this free flow of ideas from the Divine. Because it is a free flow. Ideas are pouring out to us constantly. They are the embodiment or articulation of what harmony looks like in our particular instance, and we have constant access to them.

For example, the idea comes to be available when someone asks for help. I consent to this idea. I later get a phone call from someone asking me to substitute for them at a meeting. As busy as I am, I might turn the person down—but I got that earlier idea to be available. So I say yes, perhaps even grudgingly. But then I go to the meeting, and I do my duty as cheerfully as possible. I leave the meeting with three new clients.

This has happened more times than I can say, so now I trust that it's a good idea to be available. I'm obedient, and this obedience leads me.

So to me, demonstrating abundance is about demonstrating an openness to ideas and a willingness to be obedient. To not second-guess the ideas, but to follow them with expectation of good.

Here are two passages from Mary Baker Eddy that I like:

Divine Love always has met and always will meet every human need. Science and Health

This line could sound like divine Love *sends* what we need. However, a while back I read this as divine Love *being* what we need. Divine Love itself is the answer to our needs. The presence of divine Love meets every human need. This perspective brought Love much closer to me in thought, and I felt embraced.

God gives you His spiritual ideas, and in turn, they give you daily supplies. Angels

Here's that equation again: God sends ideas, they lead to what you need. I might add, "if you follow them." The arrival of these ideas is not passive on our part. We need to greet them, welcome them, obey them, take action.

Somehow, while I might think of bank accounts or equity lines as finite, it's easy for me to understand that ideas are infinite. How can there ever be a shortage of ideas? They fill all space, eternally. That being the case, there is no lack at all, how could there be? Ideas fill the need infinitely.

You have infinite supply because you have infinite ideas arriving moment-by-moment from the Divine. Look to this Source as your fount of blessing, and follow where it leads.


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Tuesday, June 26, 2007

Prayer as a place

As a follow up on yesterday’s entry, I thought I’d write more about how I pray. Specifically, how I’ve been praying lately.

Lately it’s been more a solid confidence and knowing that all is well more than any detailed metaphysical process. I’m just keeping in the calm zone, sure of the destination even as the next step is unfolding.

There have been several challenges lately to test this mindset. An injury in the family, a brush with the garage that knocked off a side view mirror, the discovery of a heretofore unheard of (not serious, merely annoying) physical condition, the ongoing dance of real estate brokers and showings, a flood of work with not enough time to do it.

Yet through all these little ripples, my goal is maintaining my peace. Staying even keel, letting the waves move me forward without resistance. It’s like I’m in this prayer space where nothing can get at me. The sun is shining there, the breeze blows cool and clean, my head is clear and the view is infinite.

It’s prayer as a place. And I have to say, I love it here.


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Monday, June 25, 2007

Q: How to pray

I received this earnest question [slightly edited] over the weekend:

Ahh! Please help me Laura! I have a question that has been bugging me all night!

I just came across a link to a blog that a friend reccomended to me. And the question that he just posted has been crazy! Can you please check it out? He said "How do you pray?"

I have no idea how to pray! Can you please help me?

Thank you very much, I really don't mean to sound like a desperate little kid. I almost sound like my 3 year-old son. I would just really appreciate it if you wrote a post about this question. Thank you very much.

~Jack Q

Thanks for writing in, Jack! Always glad to hear from you, and hope you’ll feel free to write again whenever you’d like.

I’ve written a bunch about prayer already, so will point you to some links you could explore. (To any of my fellow bloggers: if you have posts specific to prayer, send me the links and I'll add them below.)


All Laura’s prayer postings

Individual posts


All Laura’s postings on treatment

Individual posts


So, browse through these to see what they can tell you. The final one contains an invitation to consider Christian Science class instruction, which is where I really learned how to do all this. You might want to think about it, too.

Keep in touch, Jack, and let me know how your exploration is going!


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Friday, June 22, 2007

Goodness rising like a phoenix

This story on CNN inspired me: Bullies Beware.

It tells about Olivia, a young girl who was mercilessly bullied by her peers at school. She even considered suicide. Then, two other children from another school heard about her situation from a news show about bullying, and they wrote to her, encouraging her. They started a letter campaign with their classmates to send her messages of love and support. The whole thing turned around.

I hope you’ll read the story and some of the comments afterward from readers. Although some of the worst of human behavior is described, some of the best comes out as well. And, like what we’ve been discussing about healing this week, sometimes it takes the problems in life to bring us the most inspiration.

When we see goodness rising like a phoenix from the ashes of human cruelty, we know that this is the reality after all. And even the bullies will see it someday.


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Thursday, June 21, 2007

Love on the road

Did you guys see that the Vatican issued a Ten Commandments for driving? I heard about them all over, found them here.

Check them out.

The "Drivers' Ten Commandments"

  1. You shall not kill.
  2. The road shall be for you a means of communion between people and not of mortal harm.
  3. Courtesy, uprightness and prudence will help you deal with unforeseen events.
  4. Be charitable and help your neighbor in need, especially victims of accidents.
  5. Cars shall not be for you an expression of power and domination, and an occasion of sin.
  6. Charitably convince the young and not so young not to drive when they are not in a fitting condition to do so.
  7. Support the families of accident victims.
  8. Bring guilty motorists and their victims together, at the appropriate time, so that they can undergo the liberating experience of forgiveness.
  9. On the road, protect the more vulnerable party.
  10. Feel responsible toward others.

Thought provoking! I especially love “protect the more vulnerable party.” They should put that in driving classes—not “who has right of way?” but “who’s the most vulnerable?” And frankly, that is something to do throughout life, not just on the road. Although I have been hard pressed to avoid squirrels lately, they do seem to come out of nowhere.

These Ten Commandments to me are just another way of saying, “Show Love on the road.” We spend a lot of time in our cars. It’s fitting that Love be there with us.


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Wednesday, June 20, 2007

Testimony from a mother

Just wanted to be sure everyone saw this remarkable testimony from a mother of a son with autism:

Laura,

I believe it is people's perceptions and thoughts that need to be healed and not the "special needs" child.

As a mother of a developmentally delayed, autistic son I spent many years worrying and crying about my son's development, or lack there of. I sought out therapists, read articles, searched the web and generally did everything I could think of in the hopes that someday he would be "normal". From the time he was 7 months old he saw at first two and then 3 different therapists several times a week. I spent many hours at home engaging him in therapeutic activities as well. He had numerous sensory issues including oral sensitivities. Getting him to eat a meal could take up to three hours, with many sessions ending with him falling asleep at the table. I did everything each therapist recommended with the hope that one day he would catch up with other children his age and be "normal".

Before he turned three we were told his delays were caused by a genetic difference. I was crushed by this diagnosis. To me this meant he was "unfixable"... he would always be different. Over the next year, after crying many tears, I had a healing... not fixing my son, but fixing my preconceived notions of who he should be or become. I began to accept my son for who he was... a happy, bright, loving child who would never knowingly harm a soul. I stopped trying to make him into our world's generally accepted idea of who a person should be or what they should be able to do at a particular milestone in their life. I began to think of myself as blessed for having such a wonderful loving boy who would shower me with hugs and proclamations of love and gratitude.

Shortly after he turned three he was diagnosed as autistic. This time I was hardly fazed. I didn't care what label doctors gave him; he was still the same child with the same unique characteristics. In fact, I welcomed the label as it made him eligible for the extra help he needed in school and allowed him to participate in programs where he met other amazing out of the norm children. He played on soccer and little league teams comprised of children with autism, Down syndrome and cerebral palsy. Watching him or one of his teammates score a goal or hit the ball and run to first base was awesome! Their joy at their accomplishment was overwhelming and contagious. They were so thrilled with themselves for every achievement, no matter how great or small. If only we all could celebrate ourselves as easily and confidently.

Of course I pray that my son will someday be independent and able to care for himself, but my husband and I are planning financially and emotionally in case he is unable. We have instilled in all three of our children a sense of family and loyalty, and know that they will look out for each other after we are gone.

Carrie

That's my very bestest friend, and I love her. I'm amazed at her faithful motherhood. She's been true to her boy throughout in ways I don't know if I ever could.

When you see love like that in action, you can only stand in awe of it. It is divine Love breaking through in our lives. Sometimes we need to see it like that rather than only in perfectly manicured lives with no ripples. Love heals the messiness of life by showing us something higher than we ever imagined possible.


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Tuesday, June 19, 2007

Q: Is anything "unhealable"?

This question came to me in response to the Down's Syndrome question from last week.

You focused in your response to that (really interesting!) question on the writer's use of the word "should." But I think that begs the question, which (as I read it) was: Is it possible to expect a healing of Down's syndrome? Not just to find harmony and peace about the situation, but to actually achieve a healing? There are a multitude of testimonies of parents who have prayed for healings of other congenital birth defects, even when there seemed to be no physical way that the defect could be reversed. So do you think Down's syndrome is "unhealable?"

And that brings me to a related question: How should a parent pray to find harmony when it seems that their child might be gay? Certainly, the parent would pray to know that his or her child is being led and governed by God, Divine Love, (etc.) but in our society, being gay can be fraught with a great deal of difficulty, prejudice, and heartache—and no one wants any of those for their child. And there are medical theories that homosexuality may be genetic, or may develop in the womb—i.e., has a "physical" cause. So what's the role of the parent here? Parents pray for complete healings when their children seem to be facing other congenital issues—how are they to pray to best support a child whom may be homosexual? So same question as for the Down's syndrome issue—are some human conditions "unhealable" and parents should not expect a physical (or lifestyle) change to result from prayer about these conditions?

Phew! I'm really grateful for these questions, thanks to the one who sent them in.

We heard from Kate the other day on the Down's Syndrome question. Take a look at her story here.

I'm thinking of other, unrelated, instances in my own life where the outside observer thought the healing would be one thing, while I wound up with another. For example, my divorce. Many many well-meaning prayerful friends and family were convinced that healing would mean we would stay together. But no, that marriage was not going to make it, and the healing was to dissolve it. I can say that because it was my marriage. No one else could really tell me what the healing "should" have been.

Nothing is unhealable. We can expect healing in our own experience of the things we are facing. What we can conceptualize, we can realize, both mentally and literally. That conceptualization, though, needs to be built on an understanding of spiritual reality, and not just be human wishful thinking. We're not willing matter to change—we're altering our mentality about matter to the point where matter no longer "matters." At that point, the spiritual closeness to the Divine is the healing, and the results will coincide with that Truth.

That being said, the thing to avoid is looking at another's experience and defining what healing should be for them. It is each person's privilege to have their own individual relationship with God, Spirit, and to find their own path to healing, in whatever way that has meaning for them.

In the case of Down's Syndrome, it is the knee-jerk reaction of those who have not had to deal with it in their lives to believe that healing would mean a change in the physical condition. I've never had to deal with it, so I don't know, and I hate to theorize. It is the sacred task of those who are facing it day-to-day to find healing with their prayers. It is our duty to support them unconditionally with ours, not outlining solutions for them but rejoicing in every sign of God's presence.

With the sexual orientations and choices of our children, we need to exercise the same respect. Unlike Down's Syndrome, I have had to deal with this issue from every possible angle since I have many young friends and family members, and I can say that for me, the best thing has always been to get out of the way and love unconditionally.

I think using the reasoning that their lives will be more difficult if they go one way than if they go another can be a dangerous trap. Life is difficult anyway. "The union of the sexes suffers fearful discord" anyway. You can't guarantee them an easy human life no matter what you do.

If the child is saying he's gay, I wouldn’t remotely try to "heal" that unless he actually wants to—and I think it's a sign of progress that kids don't automatically want to be "healed" of this anymore. Supporting a child who is homosexual and you wanted him to be straight is no different than supporting a child who has a natural talent for mechanics when you wanted him to be a lawyer. Recognize your own dreams and expectations that are mixed in with your thoughts of that child, and let them go. Then let him be himself, and let him know he always has your love.

No one said it was going to be easy! And the issues raised in the question are among the hardest ever for parents to resolve.

Please post your thoughts / responses!!


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Monday, June 18, 2007

Why ethics are important

I stumbled on a series about the Five Ethical Principles from the Ethics Guy (Bruce Weinstein) at BusinessWeek:

Weinstein says, these are "five ethical principles that guide us through all of our professional and personal relationships."

What I like about ethics or character issues is to me they're spirituality put into practice. While nothing is absolutely right or wrong in this relative universe, we can uplift even this environment by behaving ethically, or, dare I say it, morally.

The thing about ethics is if you follow them, you don't have to worry. Meaning, if it's your habit to move through the world ethically and morally, very little can come back to bite you later.

I once had a job that required strict adherence to a set of procedures. It involved the marking of documents and researching their origins. I loved this job because I felt like I could get it right, every time. While I couldn't have told you a few months later what I did on a particular document, I could with assurance state I'd followed procedure on every document. This saved me a time or two when things would get questioned.

Later I had a job where my boss asked me to lie for him from time to time. I'd never do it, but found ways to stay ethical while still meeting company needs. I never had to worry about lies I'd told or how to keep that house of cards from falling.

My brother once said to me sagely, "Immorality makes you do things you wouldn't otherwise do." I think he meant after the fact—meaning, once an inappropriate deed is done, you're then having to mop cleanup all the time to get away with it. What a waste of energy.

So I'm appreciating today how ethics and morality keep our lives uncomplicated. We can accomplish more with less baggage. Alignment with divine Principle and Truth isn't a chore, it enables us to progress more rapidly and get more done.


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Friday, June 15, 2007

Q: Different prayer paths

Here's an interesting question:

There was an article written by a woman who has a son with Downs' syndrome. She makes the statement that her son "had a useful place in life, no matter what the material picture." That started me thinking.

The article doesn't reveal how she might have prayed, but I wondered, how should she have been praying for her son? to find his "useful place in life" or for his Downs' syndrome to be healed? Shouldn't we always be praying to see through the material picture (i.e. heal the Downs' syndrome), not to find our useful place in the midst of it?

The words that leap out at me in the question are "should" and "shouldn't." I think we always need to pray the prayer, "There but for the grace of God, go I," and realize that we can't determine for another where their path is leading them. We need to trust that each person's prayer and inspiration is valid for them, where they are on their journey, at that point in time.

If we were in the same circumstances, it's possible we would be led differently, but that's still valid. If we're all following divine Love's leading, we can't go astray.

I still remember the first time this lesson hit me over the head. I was in Los Angeles for the first time, and interviewing with people at some studios as research for a book. One gentleman was a long-time entertainment professional who happened to be a Christian Scientist. I was in my mid-twenties; he was about fifteen years older.

Well, we got to talking about Science, and it turned out he had very very different ideas on how you could live the life than I did. But I could see that while my conclusions were based on what I'd always been told was right by older people who I assumed were wiser, his conclusions were straight from experience. His life and practice exemplified what he believed. My practice was still mostly theoretical.

So, I shut up and didn't argue. I accepted as valid for him the conclusions he had reached. They wouldn't have worked for me, but they did for him.

My point is that I believe the best way we can support and learn from another's demonstration is to be prepared to accept the path they're on and the validity of their conclusions. Perhaps we can consider how *we* might have handled something differently, but we can never say how *they* should have handled it. Sometimes we will experience complete freedom from the circumstance; other times we will learn deeper spiritual lessons through undergoing human adversity.

Per the above question: However this loving mother must have prayed, it's clear she's feeling the presence of Love in her relationship with her son. If that's bringing her a sense of healing and harmony, the prayer worked.

That isn't to say that if I were faced with a similar circumstance that I'd pray or expect exactly the same thing. I might experience another form of Love's presence. *Any* expression of Love's presence is valid—and powerful.

To me, it's not about praying for a specific outcome. It's more about cultivating the heart of prayer to feel more of God's presence. Pray for increased harmony. When that increase comes, recognize Love's presence and give thanks. Then, you're fitted to "receive more."


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Thursday, June 14, 2007

Spiritual staging

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So yesterday. Rearranged living room, rearranged basement, rearranged office, rearranged kitchen. Stripped all walls of personal photos. Ran errands to pick up bins, paint, ceiling popcorn, carpet cleaner. Still to come: transfer of multiple furniture items to other rooms, general decluttering, making keys and signing papers. Open house is on Sunday.

This part is actually enormously helpful. I'm enjoying sprucing the house up for sale, making it look the most attractive to buyers. It's making me again appreciate its assets and the reasons I bought it in the first place. It's been a nice little home for us. I didn't get to all the fixing up that I'd wanted to do, but for the most part it was comfortable, bright, cheery, safe.

I'm grateful that all those spiritual qualities will both stay in the house and come with us, too. I've moved enough to know that spiritual qualities are like that. Once you've demonstrated them, you always have them.

Well, another day dawns with a detailed to-do list, so gotta get moving. I love this blog—it's part of home I won't have to pack!


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Wednesday, June 13, 2007

Finding the way

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A collapsed schedule due to listing my house and having it staged has kept me from writing today. And now, what's coming to me to post is this comforting poem by Mary Baker Eddy. Pick your favorite tune for it, and hum along.

"Feed My Sheep"
Mary Baker Eddy

Shepherd, show me how to go
O'er the hillside steep,
How to gather, how to sow, —
How to feed Thy sheep;
I will listen for Thy voice,
Lest my footsteps stray;
I will follow and rejoice
All the rugged way.

Thou wilt bind the stubborn will,
Wound the callous breast,
Make self-righteousness be still,
Break earth's stupid rest.
Strangers on a barren shore,
Lab'ring long and lone,
We would enter by the door,
And Thou know'st Thine own;

So, when day grows dark and cold,
Tear or triumph harms,
Lead Thy lambkins to the fold,
Take them in Thine arms;
Feed the hungry, heal the heart,
Till the morning's beam;
White as wool, ere they depart,
Shepherd, wash them clean.


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Tuesday, June 12, 2007

Follow vs. worship

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A friend of mine sent a fascinating online article: Sadness: Yale University Address to Medical Students, by Franciscan Father Richard Rohr. If you want a deep read, check it out.

Here's one section I found particularly enlightening:

I hope I'm not being too cynical in saying this, but I don't think we really want to walk [the] mystery ourselves, so we worship it in Jesus. Now let me explain that. … You know, Jesus never once said, "Worship me," he said, "Follow me." One of the cleverest ways to avoid following someone is to worship him, it really works, it's very clever. You just put him on a pedestal, you make God out of him and you pay all kind of homage to this God figure and then you don't have to do what he did.

I love that! Crystal clear thinking from what I can see.

I worship God; I follow Jesus. God, the supreme, all-knowing, all-loving Creator, is worthy of my bended knee and devoted heart. God, Spirit, represents the goal of the journey. Jesus showed us how to get there. Christ Jesus is the ultimate sherpa, guiding us on the path to the Father-Mother Love. The Christ, always with us even when the corporeal Jesus is not, gives the map and is just ahead of us with a lantern in hand.

We do what Jesus did because he so closely embodied the Christ, the Wayshower, the Light. We worship the Divine as Jesus did, as part of the way Spiritward.

No excuses, then. Follow Jesus, worship God.


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Monday, June 11, 2007

Detaching from the "house thing"


This is a bit of an update to a post a few months back about getting the idea to keep my house by finding a roommate.

And actually, this is a two-year story. When I got released from my full-time job 2 years and 3 months ago, almost every decision I made was predicated on keeping my house. That desire came to me strongly, and it felt like the right goal.

My daughter went to college that fall, and my son and I then launched into our many-month journey, or struggle, or whatever you want to call it. He then went to a boarding school for this last school year, giving me time to thoroughly regroup and discover more about who I am and what I want. Right in the middle of his time away, I got the idea to look for a roommate but never found one.

Well, the school year's over and he's now home to stay, with the plan to enter our local high school in the fall. So my sojourn with empty-nesting was temporary.

The thing is, now that the dust has settled, I'm realizing it's time to let go of the house. This really fascinates me. I'm discovering that my heart has shifted on this issue, right when no less than eight townhomes came on the market quite close to where I live now. The realtors I've spoken with are astonished these all opened up at once. I imagine we'll wind up in one of them.

Rather than feeling that this is a defeat, I’m only seeing the positives. No more yard work, smaller monthly payment, scaling back on the possessions, etc. I feel like Mind was preparing me for this step all along. The "look for a roommate" idea served its purpose—which was to reduce the fear I was feeling at that time and to encourage me to be flexible. (Interestingly, several of the folks I interviewed for boarding were spiritual seekers, so I gave out several copies of Science and Health. At the time I thought, maybe that's what this is all about!)

So now I'm detaching from the house, planning what things to keep and what things to let go. I read something over the weekend about detachment on the New York Christian Science Group site: "…What came to me was that as infinite eternal ideas, we can't be attached to anyone or anything. It's not possible! But on the other hand, if we're engaging in the fictional role of a mortal, we'd need lots of attachments. It comes with the territory. A mortal who's not attached would probably be seen as mentally ill. So what to do? I suppose we need to keep our human attachments in line with divine reality and work to move them along channels evolving into infinity."

I told a friend about my growing sense that it was time to move, and she said, "You know, that is a good thing about your house—because I remember you saying a year or so ago that your main goal was to keep your house. So, this shows a total release from the 'house thing' and a receptivity to whatever comes down the pike to represent your home...which, actually, never changes."

Huh. Her comment made me reflect on all the times I've spoken in declaratives: "I'll never leave LA." "I'll never work in Boston." "I'll never give up the house." Famous last words, eh? And I think I'll start seeing those kinds of statements as red flags. Never say never. For me, it's a sign I'm too attached to something, and in the end, if it's too materially based, I'll have to let that go. Maybe the point is not to get attached in the first place.


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Friday, June 08, 2007

Eternal youth

If 50 is the new 40, what’s 45?

Thanks for all the great messages yesterday, both in the comments and emails. They’re actually the best “presents” I could have gotten, ones that gave me a sense of re-“birth” on this glorious Fri-“day.”

Yep, it’s that time of the year again for me. I’m just turning 45. When Mary Baker Eddy was 45, she discovered Christian Science. And I suppose that’s always been my benchmark of the kind of thing one should have accomplished by now. I didn’t put two-and-two together until this morning, though! Yesterday’s doldrums might have been anticipation about the significance of today’s date, which frankly I had forgotten about until Facebook reminded me.

Age is a funny thing. I mean, I know I’m accumulating memories and experience, but I don’t feel any older mentally or physically than I did when I was 17. Here’s what my note from The Universe told me this morning:

Disappointment, without anger, is the mark of an old soul.

Not being disappointed is the mark of a really old soul.

And trusting life so thoroughly that every step on its path is valued more than where it was supposed to take you, is the mark of eternal youth.

You hottie,

The Universe

The last bit made me laugh, and the truth of the third sentence is sinking in. Feeling alive is a mental experience. I don’t feel remotely like I’m winding down or finishing up or turning off. I still feel the same anticipation at the start of a new day that I always have. What will today hold? Where will it lead? Who will I meet, what will we do? Constant curiosity kicks me into gear each morning, and I’m off and running.

So 45 is just a number with no actual meaning, isn’t it? If I’m eternal, there’s nothing I can’t or won’t do eventually. I’ve got all eternity to accomplish all that divine Mind has in store for me.

Wow, that is a powerful thought for me this morning. All the things I want to do, all the people I want to meet, I will get to in some form eventually because I have all eternity. Infinite accomplishment is therefore assured. No timetable or goal setting is needed, because it all exists within me already.

So maybe the real question is: What aspect of my eternal nature is being expressed today? Each and every aspect will be expressed fully in the divine scheme, so I can sit back and simply enjoy what comes forth today. Each day is fresh in its own right, yet each day is a part of an eternal continuity. Each day I am fully actualized; yet each day I am born anew.

And that, my friends, could be a working definition of eternal youth.


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Thursday, June 07, 2007

Give yourself credit


I’ve been at a funny point lately. As I’ve mentioned before, I feel at a crossroads, and I don’t know what’s next. And, in evaluating my life, I find I’m not all that impressed with what I’ve accomplished so far. In fact, in a fit of frustrated ambition, I actually wrote in a ranting email to a friend, “I haven’t achieved anything.”

Yet the other night, I attended the awards ceremony for the mentoring program I’m in. As I sat there with my mentee in the first part of the program listening to all the one-year goal achievers, I felt a true sense of peace. My mentee is a bright, fun girl who really just wants the simple things. She’ll be the first in her extended family to graduate high school, let alone go to college (if she chooses that path). She doesn’t have this fire in her belly as I do to succeed. She’s happy where she is.

And as I sat there, I was proud of her. We were celebrating the achievement of her six-month goals, which were simple but a stretch at the same time. I didn’t have to do much to motivate her because she’s very eager to please. But the little bit I did do has made a huge difference so far. And she’s getting where she needs to go.

This gave me a little perspective. Sure, I haven’t accomplished all that I’ve dreamed I would by this time in my career. I’m not rich, famous, well traveled, or in perfect shape. But there are things I’ve done here and there that have made a difference. A smile here, a word of encouragement there, being a part of a hardworking team here, being a devoted mother there.

Is that enough? Is that what life’s all about? I’m not sure still. But I think we each could make a rather lengthy list of all the times we’ve helped or served, all the times we’ve done a job that needs doing or supported a cause that needs preserving.

So today is about giving ourselves credit for the good we’ve done. Take a moment or two to jot down a little list of five – ten positive things you did this week. Be proud of these little moments and count them as accomplishments. In the end, I suspect it will all add up.


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Wednesday, June 06, 2007

Axioms of the theater

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Writing about dance yesterday reminded me of my work in theater. I acted and directed in high school, performed in a song & dance troupe in college, and acted, directed and produced community theater when my daughter was small and I was a stay-at-home mom. [All this led to my decision to move to LA in the early ’90s, but that’s another story!]

Along the way, I collected several theater axioms, or unshakable truths. I’ve found they apply not only to theater but to life.

  • Action reveals character, not speech
    This was from a script writing class. When you’re writing a script, the most compelling way to reveal character is to have them *do* something, not just talk about it. “Show it, don’t say it” is another way of expressing it in writer’s terms. What we *do* tells who we are, not what we *say.* This was a lightbulb moment to me, because I realized it completely applies to life and relationships. Until then, I’d place an inordinate amount of confidence in what people said about themselves or about how they felt about me. When I instead sifted out their words and focused on their actions, things became a lot clearer. Likewise, I learned I couldn’t just talk about caring for people or wanting to help—I had to take action. I had to be there for them. Talking did nothing—action did.

  • Timing is everything
  • This was from working with a cast trying to do comedy on stage. Comedy exists because of timing. The joke has to come in such a way that the audience will experience fully both the set-up and the execution. The worst thing to do is tell another joke while the audience is still laughing at the last one! In life, as well, we sometimes have to experience the set-up before we get the punch line. This can take time. If we rush things, the joke falls flat. I’ve often turned to this axiom when feeling impatient with how things are rolling out. When divine Mind is the director, the timing of all the characters and the action is perfect, and I can trust that.

  • Commit to your material
    This was from getting to know a magician many years ago. He would tell me that even if his material was silly, when he committed to it 100% on stage, he could still make it work. You can have the best material in the world, but if you execute it in a wishy-washy way, it goes nowhere. Same as in life. Yesterday’s blog entry on dance talked about this as well. If you’re going to do something, do it 100%. To me, this is especially relevant to spiritual healing. If you’re wanting to pursue healing in a way that flies in the face of what the world would tell you to do, you’ve got to give it your all. You’ve got to make it a top priority, and let it take you where you need to go.

See you in the footlights!


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Tuesday, June 05, 2007

Dance before the Lord with all your might

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Blog reader Pamela sent in this incredible tap dancing sequence:

Well worth the YouTube download time, check it out. I’ve been watching it over and over this morning.

What is there about dance? I contra danced last night, and danced for hours at my friends’ wedding recently. I love the twirling and the jumping and the music and the camaraderie. I love watching how others interpret the music and the good, clean fun of the thing.

David in the Bible did a lot of dancing. I relate to David on many levels, not the least of which is dance. Not everyone was happy with him for it, yet he kept on dancing. To him, it was a form of praise.

At one point, the Bible says, “And David danced before the Lord with all his might” (II Samuel). Maybe that’s what I love about it. Dancing is 100%. You don’t want to be timid or hesitant or doubtful. You want to throw yourself into it completely, keeping all your wits about you yet letting the rhythm and the movement take you forward.

I waltzed with a gentleman last night who kept us moving smoothly through an ever-shifting crowd of couples. Step by step we glided across the floor, in harmony not only with each other but with the other dancers.

I love that 100% quality, and am realizing today that I approach a lot of life that way. Give it everything you’ve got, hold nothing back. If you’re going to do something, do it with all your might.

With all your might. I love that thought for today!


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Monday, June 04, 2007

God didn’t do it

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There’s an issue I’ve been hitting up against a lot lately, which is the thinking that God causes what happens to us so the spiritual lesson to learn is just to accept it.

Newsweek had an in-depth look at an Army chaplain’s wrestlings in Faith under Fire, from the May 7 issue. Chaplain Roger Benimoff goes from full of faith, to despair, to anger at God, to resignation (my word) about what he saw / experienced in Iraq.

Over the weekend, I spoke with my friend who lost his son recently, and he too is convinced that God caused his son’s death because God has appointed the time when we will be born and when we will die.

I didn’t argue with my friend, and I can’t discount the conclusions the chaplain has come to. But internally, I’m protesting.

And I wish I could explain in a way that will comfort and not be disrespectful what I believe about God. The God I worship does not capriciously emit life and then extinguish it. He does not cause or prevent human happenings. He’s not in that equation at all.

This mortal seeming is entirely a composite of what we all believe it to be. Each of us has impact on it and shapes it in total, even as individuals we can shape and impact our own experience or those close to us.

  • As long as we collectively believe it sometimes takes force to solve humanity’s problems, we will lose young lives to war.
  • As long as we collectively believe that alcohol and drugs have an effect on us, there will be accidental deaths from drunk driving.

This list could go on and on about what we believe and how it literally forms the world around us. We experience what we believe. We sometimes experience what other people believe even if we don’t believe it. We can break through that false belief, though, with understanding.

When we understand the nature of reality, that harmony reigns, that good is omnipotent, that Life is eternal, we move from mere belief to an unshakable confidence that is not affected by the swirls of collective opinion. It is then that we can gain some measure of control over our experience and, in turn, change the world.

God has created us in His image. We are capable of understanding what He understands. With this increased understanding, human life becomes less random and more explainable. We gain dominion and can help each other forward. My hope is that we can work together on this, and break through our false beliefs to something higher.


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Friday, June 01, 2007

Glorious June is here

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This glorious summer’s day I just can’t seem to settle down. The green leaves and the blue sky and the brilliant flowers and the gentle breeze…it all distracts me. No great profound thoughts are coming out of me today, so instead, I give you a sonnet from Shakespeare that speaks of immortality. (It also speaks to why I write.)


Shall I compare thee to a summer's day?
Thou art more lovely and more temperate.
Rough winds do shake the darling buds of May,
And summer's lease hath all too short a date.
Sometime too hot the eye of heaven shines,
And often is his gold complexion dimm'd;
And every fair from fair sometime declines,
By chance or nature's changing course untrimm'd;
But thy eternal summer shall not fade
Nor lose possession of that fair thou ow'st;
Nor shall Death brag thou wander'st in his shade,
When in eternal lines to time thou grow'st:
So long as men can breathe or eyes can see,
So long lives this, and this gives life to thee.


Have a glorious weekend!


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